One morning in the summer of 1952 I was walking alone on a vast empty beach in Vancouver, Canada. I was eleven years old, and I saw coming towards me an elderly couple holding hands. There was nobody else in sight. When they came close they smiled and said; ‘Hello! We’ve just got married’. I was amazed. It had never occurred to me that such ‘old’ people could find love at their time of life. The man told me that he had written a song for her and would I like to hear it. He reached into his pocket and bought out the sheet music. The bride and I sat on a big rock while the groom sang to us in his wavery voice. Then he asked if I would like to have a copy. Of course I said yes so he signed it for me and they went on their way. That magical encounter stayed with me all my life. They embodied everything I wanted to have when I got married and their joy and wonder in each other stands as a great reminder of the countless blessings of marriage at any age, at any stage. Of the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with another person, of the delight at having found someone to share your life with.
And now, as a celebrant, my passion is to help couples create their own customised ceremony – the setting, readings, music, poems. You may well ask, ‘Why get married at all?’ and many people choose to live together without bothering. But there is something beautiful about the coming together of two families; making a commitment in front of your friends; declaring your vows and your love before witnesses; giving the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
If a church wedding is not for you, I can help you to make your special day whatever and wherever you want it to be – in a meadow, in a vineyard, in a bluebell wood, on a beach, on a mountaintop … the choice is yours. In the words of George Eliot:
What greater thing is there for two human souls,
than to feel that they are joined for life –
to strengthen each other in all labour,
to rest on each other in all sorrow,
to minister to each other in all pain,
to be with one with each other
in silent unspoken memories.
Thanks and gratitude for all you did for us on our wedding day. Both Chris and I remain truly blessed by the kind offices you performed for us. I honestly do not think we could have found a better or a nicer celebrant.
– Christine and Chris
What a lovely day! So much love and joy. Our guests thought the service was wonderful, so heartfelt and meaningful. They’d not experienced anything like it. We felt so happy and blessed to have found you.
– Mr and Mrs Morris
Thank you so very much for making this day so special for us. Finding you, meeting you, having you join us together is evidence of the grace, beauty and elegance of spirit!
– Laurence and Emily
Thank you so much for blessing our wedding. The ceremony was just perfect and there was not a dry eye in the house. Beautiful memories that we will treasure forever.
– Laura and Dan
Thank you for being our fairy godmother and guiding us so graciously through our wedding celebrations. Your kindness and wisdom have been a real blessing during those intense days of transformation, and I cannot think of anyone who could have done a better job than you.
– Stephen and Ioanna